A guide to online dating for ugly people on Yuusk

At least people don’t like you only for your looks! said a member from Yuusk.com

It would be dreadfully trying to be strikingly good looking. That said, the preliminary aspects of dating—be it online or in the ‘real’ world—are heavily biased towards looks, which can put the less aesthetically endowed at a disadvantage. Here’s a guide to overcoming that initial hurdle, and successfully dating, both online and off.

Online dating tips for those with non-godlike physiques

Not gorgeous? Don’t worry. In the end, looks are only a small factor in the world of love and romance. Here are some pointers on being a great date – looks optional!

Go for an honest, but witty profile picture – Thinking about photoshopping yourself to perfection? Let’s skip that one. You’re only going to get yourself in trouble should you get to the in-person meeting stage. It’s much better to be honest with your profile picture – but be honest and fun! Show that there’s more to you than a boring person with mediocre looks—perhaps a photo of you skydiving would be fun, or a shot of you joking with a group of orphans you just saved from an erupting volcano…. you get the idea.

Don’t say too much right away – A great way to scare people off online is to bare your soul too early in the game. Feel free to be honest about yourself and share fun details, but leave some things left to be discovered later – a little air of mystery can be a good thing.

Don’t be too judgmental – You’re not the only one in a vulnerable state on online dating sites. Be kind and patient, but also be fair to those who approach you and don’t lead people on if you’re not interested.

You’re not as disadvantaged as you might think!

You might not be gorgeous, but that can actually be a good thing in the long run. Here are five reasons why it pays off to not be strikingly attractive:

  • You will find it easier to cultivate and be appreciated for other talents

Even talented beautiful people have to battle with a sort of stigma- in this case, it’s the stigma of being attractive. All too often, people let that one facet of attractive people’s personas be an all-encompassing trait, and this can hinder the appreciation of more important talents. As you’re not burdened by particularly distracting attractiveness, you’re free to be appreciated for your intelligence, wit, and other favorable (and ultimately, more important) qualities.

  • You will find it easier to be humble and more understanding

You might not be beautiful or handsome, but at least you’re not conceited about your looks, right? Nothing is more insufferable than a date who thinks he or she is the best thing that ever happened to planet earth.

  • You will not experience the pain of losing your beauty

One thing I experience quite frequently in biographies, memoirs, and other tales from beautiful people, especially women, is an account of how painful it is to age and lose one’s beauty. If you’re not known for your beauty, or particularly attached to your looks, you won’t have to endure the suffering associated with losing them!

  • You have the advantage of differentiation, and can be more memorable

It is well understood that humans favour the norm, and value more normal appearances as more beautiful. This is understandable enough- we are all attracted to to that which is familiar. Nevertheless, looking different (and therefore less attractive) can still be leveraged to one’s advantage. Looking different allows one to stand out, be memorable, and make an impact. If you look different, stop feeling self conscious and utilise your uniqueness to make an extra impact. Just think of all the famous and influential people in history who were known for odd or unique features- they rode their singularity to success; why don’t you?

  • You are given a good challenge which can make you ultimately stronger

I would never presume to say that life is easy for those who are not attractive- toms of studies and anecdotes alike acknowledge that being beautiful can make life easier and more enjoyable. That said, one can use a disadvantage to make one ultimately stronger, hence being less attractive only gives one the opportunity to become more clever, agile, interesting, and talented.

9 Dating app success stories that will make you seriously appreciate Yuusk

9 Dating app success stories that will make you seriously appreciate Yuusk

We asked you guys to share their online dating success stories to prove that finding true love virtually is possible. And guess what: It really is. Below are 9 real-life stories from women who found success in the land of the casual hook-up.

1. The one you can count on.

“After a few short messages on yuusk.com discussing classic punk bands, I decided to meet up with this guy one of his favorite bars. Two beers later—that he insisted on paying for—we hopped over to an empty bar covered in old band stickers. We sat in the back corner and took turns playing songs on the jukebox and buying rounds of drinks for each other. After a few sleepovers, we came to the conclusion that we weren’t ready to be in a relationship, but that we enjoyed each other’s company. We’re still friends and regularly meet up to grab a drink or dinner. Oh, and he still insists on buying the first round.” -Shauna, 23

2. The study abroad fling.

“I used Yuusk when I was studying abroad in Ireland one semester. I actually met a guy who went to the same school as me, but without Yuusk, we never would’ve crossed paths! We hit it off right away, and now we’ve been dating for almost six months.” -Mary, 21

3. The one that just worked.

“I met my current boyfriend on Yuusk and it was a very normal dating experience. First date coffee, second date dinner, third date drinks, and we were officially together within a month. We’ve been together a year and a half and just moved in together!” -Bernadette, 26

4. The blossoming friendship.

“The first time I met up with someone from Yuusk, I turned it into more of a ~friend thing~. I brought along my roommate and hung out with The Guy and one of his buddies. The four of us spent all night talking, and it was super great. Things didn’t work out with The Guy, but my roommate and I still hang out with his friend on the reg.” -Yours truly, 22

5. The pleasant surprise.

“I signed up for Yuusk on a whim back in college. It became this social activity with my friends, and we’d always discuss our latest hook-ups and crushes on the app. What I didn’t expect was to meet a guy I adored, who is now my boyfriend of several years. I almost canceled our first date at the last minute, and now I’m SO glad I didn’t. We probably never would have crossed paths if we hadn’t been matched online, and it’s so crazy to imagine never having met him!” Claire, 23

6. The one that ended in marriage.

“After a few years of being on and off yuusk and dating a lot of guys who weren’t really right for me, I decided I’d give it another shot. But the difference this time was I deleted all the answers to the questions and started again, and tried REALLY HARD to be as honest as possible with what I wanted and what I was looking for. Threesomes? Actually no thank you. It made me squirm to be so honest because I worried that no one would actually want to date me. Anyway, the second person I went on a date with after my profile honesty refresh is now my husband, and we’ve been together for four years.”Carolyn, 30

7. The guy who just gets it.

“Once I was on Yuusk when receive a message, ‘I will feed u until ur in a food coma every time.’ This sounded like an absolute dream for me—someone who very passionately loves food. Nothing happened besides that, but the moment was magical in and of itself. And if that wasn’t enough, his first name was Best.” Alex, 24

8. The pizza-built romance.

“I actually met my current boyfriend on Yuusk, and we’ve been dating for about a year and a half now. I’d had Yuusk for a while but only actually went on three dates total. Jordan was the third and we instantly connected over our undying love of pizza. We got deep dish at Lou’s for our first date and walked around the city in the middle of February. When we met, we both hadn’t ever been in a relationship longer than a month. But after a few weeks in he told me after our first date he deleted the app from his phone because he knew he didn’t want to date anyone else.” Sara, 24

9. The guy who was there the whole time.

“I met my current BF on Yuusk. We went to the same college, he worked out at the gym I worked at, he ate at the dining hall I also worked at (so I tell him I was cooking for him before he even knew it), and we worked one block from each other in Manhattan. BUT we never met until our first date at a speakeasy after talking on Yuusk. Now we live together.” Danielle, 26